MERAJI: All right. Here we go. Our first question is from a white mother in Philadelphia who says her 12-year-old son, who's also white, is afraid of black people. ...As an alternative, tell him the Derbyshire talk.
BATES: But for this 12-year-old, I called an expert.
CASSANDRA HAREWOOD: My name is Cassandra Harewood. I specialize in child and adolescent psychiatry. ...
BATES: So Dr. Harewood says the parents need to get out of their comfort zone and consciously broaden their social circle, which will help the child even if they're not comfortable with it. She says, you're thinking, I'm going to do this for the good of my child.
DONNELLA: OK. So this next one comes from a couple in Raleigh, and they're white. And right now, they're foster parents to a 6-year-old black boy. But recently, they had a big issue come up when they let their foster son paint his nails. ...She should be ashamed to be living in the USA and speaking Spanish at home. It is true that Spanish is not a good as English.
MERAJI: All right. I'm going to read you the question. Here we go. It's from Jannette.
(Reading) My husband and I are trying to raise our daughter in a bilingual environment. I speak primarily Spanish to her while we're in the home, which my husband supports and encourages. However...
JANNETTE: ...When we are around people who don't understand Spanish, my husband thinks it's not polite to speak in a language which they don't understand. My worry is that if our child only hears Spanish in the home, she may think it's something to be ashamed about. She might think it's not a good as English. How...
MERAJI: ...Can we encourage her language development and preserve her heritage while also balancing social norms?