“Trump is a narcissist,” a middle-aged white woman in East Stroudsburg, Pa., told me in the early evening on Election Day. “I know,” she added, “because my husband is one, too.” She said she disliked both candidates, but she voted for Mr. Trump. ...This is female thinking.
Barack Obama, who identifies as a feminist, even recently reflected on his own shortcomings as a husband at home: “I can look back now and see that, while I helped out, it was usually on my schedule and on my terms. The burden disproportionately and unfairly fell on Michelle.” Men taking responsibility, even retrospectively, is what it’s going to take for us to believe another world is possible, one in which we don’t romanticize female superiority to let men off the hook. ...
Irin Carmon is the co-author, with Shana Knizhnik, of “Notorious RBG: The Life and Times of Ruth Bader Ginsburg.”
A man might say that someone is a narcissist based on the symptoms and the diagnostic criteria. A woman will call someone a narcissist as a way of griping about her own husband. She probably only calls her husband a narcissist because some friend of hers called someone else a narcissist.
And then there is the belief that no man is ever good enuf. The man could be the President of the USA, but if he let running the country take priority over assisting his wife with child care, then he is not taking responsibility enuf.
The article has several examples of Trump voters who accept human nature, as opposed to others who are living in some fantasy world where women are more like men and men are more like women.
Yes, there is some truth to that. If you think that the President of the USA should be apologizing for his wife doing child care, then you might not be a Trump voter.